Why do most pregnant women or moms lie? Why? WHY? Answer me!
As I am nearing my third trimester, I find myself getting more irritated by the fact that all the formerly pregnant people I’ve talked to have essentially lied at my questions.
Q: “What is it like being pregnant?”
A: “It’s amazing. Magical. I love it. This is the best period of my life.”
Talking to same person above, “Oh my gosh. The nausea is insane. It never ends. Also, why am I already struggling to breath? And seriously, constipation? Already?
Their response: “Hahahahahaha. Oh I know. It sucks. I was miserable for months. Just wait, it’s going to get worse.”
I thought you freaking said it was magical. Amazing. The best time of your life. Instead, you were also miserable?
This has happened with practically every person I’ve ever talked to. There are a few that actually did have a great pregnancy, and I’m so happy for them!
Why the heck do most of them lie? That is one thing I have not done when people ask me. I’m honest with them. What surprised me is that people have thanked me for it. Apparently I was not the only human alive who was tired of hearing how ‘magical’ pregnancy is.
So you know what?
Pregnancy sucks. It does.
But also, pregnancy doesn’t suck for everyone. They are the lucky ones, but I think they are also few and far between.
I am very aware how lucky I am to finally be pregnant. I am thankful every single day. We’ve been waiting for this for almost 4 years. 4 years. A woman is classified as infertile at 1 year. It was getting to the point where I didn’t really think it would happen for us. Then it did.
So don’t get me wrong. I love this little guy more than I could imagine, and he isn’t even here yet.
But I can also say that it’s really hard to stay positive when everything hurts:
- Sometimes drinking water gives me heartburn. Eating anything does.
- I now have to wear a nose strip when I sleep so I can actually breath.
- The gas my body produces is insane. I fart every single time I pee.
- I had morning (aka ALL FREAKING DAY) sickness until about 20 weeks.
- My dreams and nightmares wake me up every night. I haven’t gotten a full nights sleep in probably 5 months (and the baby isn’t even here yet).
I have been completely miserable. I’m not gonna lie about that.
The way everyone made it sound is that this is the easy, breezy part until the kid gets here. If this actually is the easy part….we are screwed.
But do you know what else? It is magical. It really is. I have to admit that, no matter how hard my eyes just rolled into the back of my head. I hate being a cliche. But my body is literally building another human. I have built organs, a heart, lungs. My body is what will eventually give our baby life. Only me. If that isn’t completely magical, I really don’t know what is.
♥ A very grateful soon-to-be mama
P.s. This post is not venting or scorning anyone. It’s just me, putting my thoughts out there in the universe.