Okay, raise your hands ladies.
How many of you have said this?
I’m guessing most of you.
I used to do that. I would probably say that before every question I asked.
Then one day at work, about 2 years ago, my boss held a meeting for my department.
You see, my department was all women and there was one thing she was done hearing.
Can you guess what it was?
That’s right: “I have a stupid question”.
She was done. She never wanted to hear any of us say that again.
Do you know why?
- You’re putting yourself down every time you say that.
- No boss wants a stupid employee.
- If you’re curious about something, don’t think it’s stupid.
- She kept losing a little respect for us each time.
- It’s not cute, and it’s not adorable.
- Why the hell are you telling people your thoughts are stupid?
One last funny but, and yet…it can kind of be true…
- There are not stupid questions, just stupid people.
She told us that for the next month if any of us said that, to anybody, we would be buying the department a pizza party.
No one said it.
Not one single person.
So she bought us one.
And since that moment, I’ve never said I had a stupid question again.
That woman made such an impact on my life in that moment.
I will be eternally grateful.
What I really hope though, is that some girl out there reads this she’ll realize that her thoughts and questions are valid, no matter the situation…as long as you don’t ask it just to be cute and get attention.
If you want people to take you more seriously, especially in the workplace, first you have to take yourself more seriously.
You don’t have to become someone you’re not, just realize your worth, and be proud.
Proud of your thoughts, ideas and questions.
After all, maybe someone else has been thinking that exact same thing.